To get along with 'The Change'

                 So finally on 5^th December,2010, I entered to a place where I am going to spend the next three months for training. Actually real training was started when I got my joining letter. When I came to know the word ‘Coimbatore’, for 1-2 hours I was feeling something awkward but after wards I made up my mind and with blessings of God I got the strength and courage to come at Coimbatore because at a moment I was ready to leave the job as I have never been away from my home for such long period of time. But finally I am here and here is something about Coimbatore.

                       Firstly, I am an outsider here so from that point of view, I found this city very nice and peaceful. I must say people here are very much helpful and kind towards us. And the most attractive thing about this city is its variable climate. Here you can get Sunshine in morning and in evening gray rainy clouds takes over and feels like winter atmosphere in rainy season. You have a beautiful scenario of Mountains spread around in every direction from terrace; it is a pleasure to watch such natural beauty.  I felt like a stranger for first week as it is new place with new people and above all, new language which is totally out of my reach. Because here you can read only prices in some restaurants which are in English, the items listed are in Tamil so that is the funniest situation. Most of the time, we can communicate in English and Hindi which is helpful. One more thing is that as time passes, the feeling of being away is decreasing instead of increasing which I am finding strange. But may be the city has something which attracts and feels like home. So overall I love this small, sweet and peaceful city. Feels Good!!!   

                   I do not  miss my hometown or my family too much as I always talk to them by video calling. And I have also got too many too good friends here so I spend 'masti' time with them everyday. The change which I feel after coming here is that so many things I have learnt about life rather than regular studies. I came across different kind of people, observed their nature and lifestyle and took good things from that. But one thing I have noticed here is that More or Less the old habit of  'showing off to the society'  is here too. People wants to be too good, too smart and too knowledgeable on front off others. I am not much used to handle these kind of things so I found it strange rather than difficult but now I handle it and also learnt to enjoy the thing. It is really great fun!!!   

                   As everybody knows, I follow 'Happy Go Lucky' strategy everywhere. I mean Live totally in Present,  Never to worry about tomorrow's test and Little bit of planning to perform good. As I admit sometimes this 'Lucky' goes more 'Happy' then she should be so the result are reflected in some tests. But still I think If God has put me in this situation, He must have thought of the solution to get out. So I have no need to worry about the next day or even the next minute. And this approach has been very useful to me in Life because People generally miss their family and friends when they get tensed or when they are in problem, this makes them weak and also they lose their self-confidence to overcome the situation. I never take tension about anything or any small or big situation in Life because I believe that every problem comes with a solution as 'No Lock is made without a key, you just have to wait for the right time and the right key.' Here many people find my strategy surprising as they say,"'How can you be so calm and relaxed? It is about our future." I always reply, "I think my future is not totally in my hands. So I honestly do my best with dedication and never worry about the results. Because I have done work of my part, I have no control over what goes on next so I don't waste my time thinking about that. so I always Be Positive and chill!!!!"  

             So I know I should not do this but still I am advising you to Be positive in every situation as this thing has helped me a lot to adjust and to cop up with the changes which I felt after coming here..... :)

Living Music.........

Ah.. the name itself tells the whole story. Well, actually it is not logically right to write about Music because there is notihng new in that. Almost No introdution, no description as well as No ending. (#nowplaying ‘Raag Banke’) But still It is a topic on which we have endless descriptions as well as there is always something new and refreshing in every song.

Well for me and many other people on this Earth, Music is Life (not like life). Music is a thing which you can enjoy even if you don’t have any knowledge of that. Simply music creates every emotion of your life and sometimes it gives you some new unheard and unfelt feelings which are impossible to describe and unforgettable. As some songs are cachy while some are always touchy.

Music is really magical because It is amazing how only 7 notes can generate thousands of emotions, which changes our mind, mood and sometimes whole Life. (#nowplaying ‘yaadein title – female version’). I am not writing this article because I have a very good knowledge of Music. Actually Every time I get a new song to hear I feel ‘Oh.. I haven’t thought music can describe this in such a beautiful manner.’

Thanks to our Bollywood music directors I can say We have a lot more variety of music types and songs then Hollywood, Tollywood, Kollywood, or any other ‘wood’.(#nowplaying ‘Tera Mera pyar’). I can say this because the song I am listening now, the very beautiful song by Neeral Shridhar and Sweet voice of Falguni pathak – the ultimate duet ‘Tera Mera pyar sanam’..Wow.. wordings are amazing as well as superb music. Only Bollywood can have this type of combinations of English+Hindi lyrics. Also we have many other songs of these kind of fusion lyrics like (#nowplaying ‘Ek Din’) My dil goes hmm.., Vacancy, Meow, and the list goes on. This songs have english and hindi lyircs and are not evergreen great but enjoyable. And the latest is ‘Tumse hi Tumse’ from ‘Anjaana Anjaanni’, It has some nice english lyrics in between the song which are beautifully composed.

I don’t have a very high knowledge of Hollywood music and Hollywood bands but this is because Our music has never given us that feel of something missing so that I have to find out for other music. (#nowplaying ‘Payalein chhunmun chhunmun’) But I like all kind of music if it is good. Evergreen Kishore Kumar songs, other retro songs, Latest songs, 90’s music, Michael Jackson, and sometimes other good International music too. Listing out here is impossible. But still I can have some most favourite songs of mine which are always there in my playlist and I never get bored of listening them. For example I love the background tabla music of ‘Aye Hairate’ from ‘Guru’ and also the beginning part of ‘Baras ja’ and also the song which is I am listening right now ‘Payalein’ from ‘Virasat’ by Udit Narayan. What a slow, sweet evenly flowing emotions!!

So more discussion about some most loving songs will be in next part.(#nowplaying ‘Kabhi na sukoon aaya’) And this article will not give you any knowledge about Music. So there is nothing more interesting in it. But still If you like it, Do comment.

Ok, now It’s 1:30 AM. Time for last episodes of repeat telecast of ‘Rishta.com’ on Sony Tv which I want to watch (for last time L). So Good night to all. (#nowplaying ‘Chhaya hai jo’)

Act to Not Acting... Just once!!

"Can we stop ACTING/PRETENDING our self as a too good person for a while??"

Sometimes mind screams like this.. I think the best actors of the World we have not in Bollywood but in our BEAUTIFUL society. Not because they act so realistically, but because their acting is not so good and still we keep on supporting them. Actually the reality is Sometimes we also have to be a part of this acting.

I think now acting has become a full time job for us which we all do without any payment because we want to maintain the credit in this Society. All the time we try to act the way as the world want us to be. I have heard many people saying "I don't care of this society", but at the same time I can see that they are trying to pretend that they don't care. If you really don't care then what is the need to show it publicly?? Just acting. We act because we don't want to show our actual personality to this world because we think Society will not accept us the way we are. How strange is that

"Our lack of SELF-CONFIDENCE gives us the Super CONFIDENCE to act as another character."

The best examples I have seen in Social gatherings. So funny and truly Bad acting!! Everyone with plastic smiles, unnecessary sugar-coated dialogues and above all big useless laughs. Here I admit that Sometimes I have to be a part of this things. Not intentionally because I generally remain silent in these talks and people considers it as I agree with them. If anyone asks for opinion then I surely speak what I think but otherwise I just enjoy their act!! Because usually I like to observe these conversations rather than being a part of them. Everyone proves that their point is right(actually there is no point in these talks). That's why I like to see actors on TV rather than going in these gatherings. But when once we are there, we have to act as we are very Enjoying.

I have read somewhere that "A person is truly measured by the things which he does when he is alone." because at that time we can be what we are. but I think if it is so, then We should always ACT as we are alone so that we have no need to ACT more. Its very hard to do, and also some kind of selfish(as we all think selfishness is BAD thing), but I think there is no selfishness in BEING YOURSELF.

(Try it yourself, If you don' care of ................... :) )

Ok, so now don't act to be nice in your comments here :

EXPECTATION of 'Sorry' v/s EGO

I thought EXPECTATIONS chapter is over…but then I realized suddenly, without a BIG feel of EGO, how can I end it?

The EGO is the one thing why you can’t say ‘I am Sorry’ to anyone, because that is the biggest obstacle in your path. People think If they say Sorry, their image will get down. This society will consider them as weak If they feel guilty on anything. Whenever we advice anyone to say sorry… Some people react very horribly as we have made the biggest mistake. Some reactions are like:

1) “WHAT..???!!!” – As if we have made a big mistake by suggesting them.

2) “Why should I say ‘Sorry’? I didn’t do anything wrong.” – They know from inside that they made mistake but still they EXPECT that if other person will say Sorry once, then I will admit my mistake. How interesting thinking only because of this EGO..!!

3) “No ways…NEVER..!!!” – Now this is the most rude reply. The person is very desperate that he/she hasn’t done anything wrong. No chance..!!

4) “Ok..will try..”- This has some chances which may work sometimes.

Sorry, I am somewhat technical so a little bit classification was given above. I know it’s not good but can’t help it. So my point is, Personal EGO is the biggest weakness of a person. “Why should I do this?” Is the question which always arises in a person’s mind when there are some unusual situations. People think Only Weak persons say Sorry but I think

“If you can admit your mistake then you are the strongest person in the World.”

At least you have the guts to admit that “Yes, I was wrong”. I have observed that in every relation, we say ‘Sorry, my mistake’ for very small things. Like when your friend’s pen fell down by you, ‘Oh…I am sorry.” Or when you forget to bring any small thing of your friend which he/she demanded you say, “Oh no..i forgot ..I am sorry.” The situations are endless but very small. Even on roads when we accidently come across anyone we say ‘sorry’ even if we don’t know the person.

But why this same thing can’t be happen when you make some real mistake which truly hurts anyone? At that time, your EGO comes into your way and you are unable to accept your mistake. You can feel guilty for small things but why you can’t accept your big mistakes which are truly needed. At that time your EGO keeps pushing you away from your relations who once hurt can’t be regained. So just think once by putting your EGO aside, which thing is more important? Your Ego or your relations…….

Oh..Very much philosophical I can say, but this is totally practical and applicable. Really..!!!

EXPECTATIONS - What you are Expecting from this?

EXPECTATIONS… The easiest way to get hurt. Really this one word is the root cause of all the pain, sorrows, and sadness.

The more you EXPECT, the more you get hurt. Sometimes you EXPECT something more from yourself and you are hurt. It loses your self-confidence. Everyone has so many big/small expectations from you and you also has the same towards them.

But mainly what I personally hate is the expectations of this so called ‘SOCIETY’ from us, they always expect us to behave in a goody-goody manners, they want over-decent and extra well-manners from us particularly from youngsters (especially from girls truly!!!). I just don’t know why they all want us to be like them in everything. And when we are unable to fulfill their expectations, the storm of Advices and criticism comes to us to make us feel that we are making a terrible mistake by not satisfying their expectations. This is truly irritating and sometimes mind-blasting.

Another thing is to EXPECT ‘SORRRY or THANK YOU’ from anyone. Here, thank you is not a problem but when you expect ‘SORRY’ from anyone, and if it doesn’t come, yes… The thread of relationship starts getting weaker. I have also previously said that ‘NO SORRY, NO THANK YOU’ is only good in philosophy. If you try to use it in friendship, I bet you will hurt your friends intentionally or unintentionally. Because once you made a mistake, if you realize it, one SORRY is a proof to others that you realized your mistake. Because after your mistake, your impression to others is changed and magically a small ‘SORRY’ can create it back. Sometimes your mistake may be big; at that time sorry doesn’t work but I can say it can make the mistake smaller. So Here I am not advising anyone to say sorry, but only clearing the picture about how desperately SORRY is expected. And publically many people disagree with this, but they surely EXPECT it because it is human nature.

‘To expect and To get Hurt when Receiving Unexpected Things from Expected Ones.’

Ok, this is not so good and public appealing because you also Expected something when you read the title..Isn’t it?

SUCCESS - Handle Very Carefully

'Some pleasant surprises in life can cause dangerous Side-Effects.'

When I wrote this status message in Gtalk, so many questions came... What do you mean to say?...What is the surprise?...Why such heavy words?...and like dis.

I said 'this may be heavy but its true.' Sometimes we have no idea how strange and unbelievable results may come after any achievement. This is very obvious, i mean everyone wants to be successful and if it is not possible, he/she tries to be in better contact with other achievers. And there is nothing wrong from their sides. but whenever you achieve any success, you have more responsibilities how to handle this success and how to share it with everyone.

"Sometimes Your success matters more to others than to you."

Whenever you achieve something, the view of many people towards you changes sometimes by 180 degrees. Some of your relationships are changed completely for lifetime, some new relations comes to you with a smiley face mask because of your success. Some old relations may face some problems. but some friends are always there with you to support you in any situation and those are the true ones. but dangerous in the sense, you may have to face some very bitter true facts of some persons like you have never expected. How they are becoming more friendly now and how some others are now going far away, you feel helpless in both situations..

Here you have to handle it very carefully. Means you should be the same person as you were before and it is very necessary to avoid any kind of egos or rudeness. Because both these things will totally kill yourself. I think every step towards success takes you more and more up from the Earth and unintentionally you are changing many things (good and bad both!!). So just don't forget from where you came to this point and be kind and polite to everyone. This is the only way which will make you happy from inside and you will also make others happy.

Whenever any success comes to you, don't forget to look at it's backside as it comes with more responsibilities and some good lessons of a lifetime. But whatever the situation it is, Never try to lie to yourself. Just be honest at least to yourself as it will help you to keep going on the right path.

Hmmm.... more than enough of heavy words here... so at last, i just wanna say If You have achieved something small or big, then do one thing for sure please... It's my request to you.. and this one thing you must do. You know what? Are CELEBRATE IT... Party Karo.. Enjoy your success... :) ...and...."જલસા કરો" ...and B+...

Pray that success will not come any faster than you are able to endure it. - Elbert Hubbard

FRIENDS and 'THE FRIENDSHIP'

Friendship- has become very easy to say word today. Especially after arrival of these community sites, the word is used very often in different forms. In these sites, we are having too too many friends. Some are school/college mates, some are family, some are unknown chat friends, and the latest category is by the way friends (means we have seen their face once but never talk to them). But the Friendship is different with everyone. I still get surprised when I see 100-200 friends on orkut profiles!!!, Though I prefer to use the word 'classmate' sometimes (instead of 'friend' obviously).

Friends are no doubt the most important and memorable in our life. But when talking about true or best friends or you can say, close friends, we have to be very very careful to handle the relation. Sometimes a small mistake or misunderstanding may lead to a disastrous end of your friendship. True friends are hard to meet, but sometimes it is even harder to manage. I am not saying that friendship is a tough relation, but when you know that your friend is very good person with a little insecure nature or a little bit of bad qualities, it is tough to handle it. Especially when it directly hurts you, at that time you have to sportily ignore it. Generally insecurity or similar small things lead us to break the friendship or it makes the relation slightly bitter, but it’s up to your nature whether you take it as a weakness of your friend or a reason to break the friendship. The worst part is that when you review your close friends from others’ talk. I mean if you think they are your true/good friends then what is the need to ask others’ about them. And surprisingly what is the reason to believe such talks?? In friendship, you may interfere in small things of your friend or you can give advice in very small issues but sometimes you have to willingly forgive some very big issues or big things. That is the beauty of friendship.

People say ‘In friendship No Sorry, No Thank you’, but I think a small sorry can be very helpful sometime to hold the breaking friendship. No more time or formal sentences are needed in friendship, just one ‘Hi!’ is enough (Today only one miscall is needed :-)!!).

Friends are those with whom we share all the things which we generally not share to anyone, not even with our parents or brothers/sisters. So friends have always superior place in our hearts and our life. Friendship is the most precious and beautiful gift of god. So don’t break this thread for small reasons or big misunderstandings. Take every possible chance to clear the thing because True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost. Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

(Ok now one note for readers: if i have hurt your feelings in any way, i am extremely sorry. There is nothing intentionally written here, and doesn't point to anyone. So again i am sorry. Don't take it in personal way please.....)